Maiden article and logo: Love, Sex And Lasting Relationship LET’S TALK ABOUT SEX?

I was in a conference planning team for a Christian organization. I suggested we include overcoming sexual pressure as one of the topics to be treated during the conference. A member of the team objected to this. According to him talking about sex will be too “unholy” because a majority of those attending the conference are born again Christians. The topic might put them off. A blogger on the internet said, “There is a lot of pretense going round especially when it comes to the subject of sex. People hide under stuffs like (culture and religion) and pretend as if all is well when they are actually suffering underneath.” A close friend of mine also told me this, “When we were brought in for marriage counseling, our marriage counselor glossed over the issue of sex. We had many questions we wanted to ask, but we were afraid to ask because our counselor only talked about sexual immorality as if that was the only challenge we shall face. Later on as our marriage progressed, I complained to my marriage counselor about certain compatibility issues we were having in our sexual life. Our counselor responded by asking me, “Are you a dog? You should be content with the number of children you have by now, there are other couple who don’t have any.” I left him confused, because he created a controversial impression in me that sex was just for the purpose of procreation.” This is not true but our problem is that we seem to shy away from issues that deal with sex. We might be free to talk about other things but not sex. Yet, sex is an everyday occurrence just as we have to eat or drink water. Most often the only time we have to treat sex education is when it causes a noticeable damage in the family or society. Rape, adultery, fornication, unwanted pregnancies could be brought to the barest minimum if we all, -parents, church, non-governmental organizations and government agencies take a more proactive stance on it, rather than playing the ostrich.
Samuel Chukwuoma in his essay says, “There is no denying the fact that we are in a lifelong battle against sexual immorality. Come to think of it, with the advent of the internet, sexually stimulating adverts on television, billboards and the print media, obscene magazine covers, books and music that feature heavy load of sexual contents, is it not true to say that these days the assault on sexual morality starts early in life? From the teen years people are ‘pressured’ into adult sexual behavior without the safeguard of emotional stability.”
Our holier than thou attitude has driven sex education to the “black market.” Since healthy information on sex and sexuality are rarely available through a deliberate formal teaching, our young people sneak into the global village via the internet to get information. In the process of doing this without adult guide and teaching, they veer into pornography and other sexual misbehavior. A girl complained that the first time she experienced a menstrual flow and told her mother, all she received was a stern warning from the mother, “Make sure you don’t come home with a pregnancy.” -That was all the mother told her. The rest about what led to the menses and what to do came from her friends who also unfortunately told her to get herself dis-virgined as a panacea to the pain that came with her “period.”
Our shyness is causing more harm than good. We must rise to occasion and begin early to tell our children about this thing sex, because if we do not do, the “roadside” teachers might do! Sex education from the Biblical point of view, is not about teaching a child or an adolescent how to have sex, or how to use contraceptive, but it is about making him or her know of future pains and pleasure and how to avoid the pain as well as how to ignite the pleasure within acceptable Biblical limit.